Water
Water

Water

Trigram
Chinese
English
Kǎn
Yin/Yang
Yang
Element
Physical
Lumbar pain tight superficial back line tight hamstrings and gastrocnemius waking to go to the toilet at night tight Achilles hearing loss soft tinnitus
Motivators
Fear loneliness impotence control safety connection and closeness trust/distrust security
Associations
danger risk control or loss of control crisis peril persistence drive second son loneliness withdrawal solitude mid winter the moon number 1.
In disharmony
fear anxiety fright phobias terror paranoia controlling and always moving withdrawn
In disease
Diseases of the Ki Bl urination bones blood body fluids oedema the marrow lower abdominal region lumber pain accumulated and stagnant toxins.
Key Issue
Connection to and trust of internal wisdom, inner knowing
Table of Contents

Behaviour

Water types want to be connected and close to others. They don't like the feeling of others withdrawing from them. To cope with difficult feelings like withdrawal or loneliness they withdraw from themselves in an effort to limit and control their awareness of it.

When they withdraw from their feelings of being withdrawn they can feel numb and become really disconnected. The irony is that this disconnection from self then leads to a disconnection from others, in effect locking in a sense of loneliness. They can be in a room of people and still feel alone.

They are usually highly motivated and driven if their underlining response to fear is to control rather than withdraw. They like to keep on the go and usually push through their fear. The more disconnected they are, the more they tend to seek adrenaline style activities that challenge their fear: things like parachuting or rock climbing or bungy jumping. This ultimately changes if their health deteriorates. As they push themselves beyond their physical limits they will lose the capacity to stay driven.

Alternatively they may feel impotent and a victim of fate if their underlining response tofear is to withdraw rather than control. In this case they respond to fear by trying to be a small target – being “invisible”. This invisibility then feeds back into feelings of disconnection because they feel people don't notice them.

The truth is that with both patterns they don't notice themselves. In particular they tend to live in their heads, being vigilant and relying on thinking to keep them safe. This leads to excess thinking and a propensity to get anxious. This type of anxiety pattern is rooted in fear.

There is often a difficulty trusting themselves and others. Partly this reflects confusion around instincts. They don't realise that anxious feelings are the product of their excess thinking, but rather assume the anxious feelings relate to their instincts. As a result they don't know what to trust.

They like to accumulate knowledge, thinking knowledge is a substitute for wisdom or will eventually lead to wisdom. What they don't realise is that the inherent limitation in knowledge is that it feeds the logic brain, and thus is about the bits and pieces in life. It is not useful for the new or unusual or in understanding the whole. For example the question of whether to trust someone or not comes down to a read of their entire character. This is an instinctive process. If you try to study them logically you get lost in categorising the trees in their metaphorical forest without really seeing the forest as a whole. There is no certainty in that analysis, and hence this does not provide a solid grounds for trust.

Solutions

Its very important that Water types become aware that instincts come from their wisdom – which is an innate knowing. ‘Knowing’ is certain – there is no ambiguity. Eg you may ‘know’ your son or daughter or dog when you bond with them. Its not a logical process but instead relies on the other side of the brain (Gestalt). Knowing is not felt but known. Its dead certain.

Do you love your son? Yes! Why? Usually people reply with a blank stare and say ‘because I do’ or something like that. There is no ambiguity in the answer. They are dead certain. This is knowing.

So the answer to fear is to trust this innate knowing/ wisdom. As they begin to trust this they think much less and respond more instinctively to situations. Trusting themselves provides the platform to connect to and trust others. They use their instincts to discriminate and know when to trust or when not to trust.

The solution to loneliness is to reconnect with self. When someone is truly connected internally they also have a sense of connection to all things. This sense of connection does not require physical presence of others. They can feel connected regardless of whether people are physically there.

Pattern

The trigram for water is a yang line between two yin lines. The yang line represents the heaven or spirit within everyone. The yang can be seen as trapped within yin (symbolic of the mundane world). This is symbolic of opportunity within danger.

In imbalance there is fear. Fear can prevent us from realising the potential within either because we become timid and a victim of fate or overly assertive and unable to allow our inner core to just express and flow in our life. We either withdraw to be safe or control the environment to make it safe.

When we withdraw to be safe we are forever running away from problems, trying to be invisible. This leads to us feeling impotent and potentially like a victim.

When we try to control the environment to be safe we are continually driven and on the move. Rest is difficult and our mind will remain overly active and vigilant. This type of water type is very persistent and copes with fear by breaking through and getting on and just doing it.

Either way water types can become numb to their feelings, as they withdraw from feeling fear or try to control their fear.

They often distrust themselves and others. Partly this reflects confusion about feelings and instincts. Their experience with anxiety makes them wary to trust their feelings. What they don't realise is that instincts relate more to their wisdom – their ‘knowing’ – rather than their feelings. For example when they bond with a dog they get a sense of who the dog is – they ‘know’ the dog. Its dead certain. Feelings are never dead certain.

They try to gain more and more knowledge, trying to think their way to safety. They can never truly be at rest if they try to think their way to safety. They will be forever alert and vigilant, not able to relax. This constant vigilance can produce anxiety.

Water types can be overly driven and never rest. The greater their sense of fear the more they drive themselves in order to create the environment they want. They can also keep themselves busy in order to distract themselves from their fear.

Lesson

They can only feel safe when we trust their innate wisdom. It provides a true sense of danger and safety. It enables them to feel safe to rest and be still when appropriate for them. By trusting themselves they will be able to move to trusting others.

This wisdom also allows us to flow with life instead of against it. When we flow with life we tend to adopt the middle way, not reaching out impatiently for what we desire but instead working step by step in the right direction. Each moment in life can then be treasured instead of being seen as just a moment on the way to a particular goal or outcome.

This connection with our deeper sense of self also allows a connection with all of life and with others.

Water Point

Room of Will/ Palace of Essence (Bl-52)

Location: 3 cun lateral of L2.

This point helps a person to use their will to direct the mind into the depths of self to rediscover our spirit purpose/ life purpose/ destiny, helping to allow us to fully express our heart in the world. It can soften an overly hard will or strengthen the will to help tap our unused potential. It brings together the heart and destiny by improving understanding of our potential (jing) - life essence - which is encoded with memories of our original nature.

Under-active will: Imagine being able to do what is most important for you in your life in the way that you want. Imagine achieving what is most important to you.
Overactive will: Imagine feeling like you are heading in the direction of your choice, flowing with the tide of life like a river through rambling hills. As you flow along feel the joy of feeling free to just go with the flow and live your truth. Allow yourself to be diverted around obstacles, at peace knowing that you still have a firm idea of where you are eventually heading and understanding that each diversion provides an opportunity for a different view of your path and thus an opportunity for further learning and enjoyment.

Also: Sea of Illumination (Ki-6)

Location: depression directly below medial malleolus.

This point enables us to plunge in the waters at the depths of our being, illuminating our life with wisdom. In these waters we come to respect our inner beauty and open to the beauty around us. This is a very important point because it unites the power of both fire and water, and relates directly to authentic yin and yang. Fire represents the yang, outer, vibrant; water the yin, inner, rest. When we achieve a balance in yin and yang our life is an expression of our inner nature and an expression of our destiny.

In a sense it is at this point that our yin accepts our yang, our inner nature is at peace with the way we are expressing ourselves in the world, our inner nature is at peace with the world. This point is useful for states where anxiety, overwhelm, fear and a general sense of urgency prevail. It helps to calm our mind, so that we can unmuddy the waters of chaos, allowing them to settle and promoting inner reflection.

Imagine: looking at water that is murky. This water is symbolic of your mind when it is full of anxiety and fear. Breathe deeply into your belly and allow the waters to settle and clear. Notice how the waters begin to reflect both the world around them and the world underneath the water as they settle. So to will your mind reflect both the world around and the world inside when it is still and calm.